i get interesting stuff send to my email from menshealth and the topics of the newsletters include food and nutrition, fitness, sex, health, and some general cool stuff.
so this newsletter reads, is she the one for you?
cool stuff huh.
in it they havs a list of questions regarding potential conflicts in the relationship and the list include you and your partner's views of issues like:
1. money 2. family 3. religion 4. her career 5. your career 6. interests and dreams 7. discipline style (for the child) 8. genetics (??) 9. potential in-laws 10. her father
and lastly,
and the ultimate question... finally, you need to ask yourself this: 'can i ask these questions and have an honest, intelligent conversation with this woman when we disagree?' because if you can't, none of her answers really matter.
3 words that i feel are really crucial: honest, intelligent, conversation.
honest means no deliberate equivocating, no concealing, honest means being forthcoming, being open, and honesty takes a leap of faith.
intelligent means that one must have a mind of his/her own, and be able to put them across coherently, or at the very least, in a manner comprehensible.
and perhaps most importantly, conversation means there's dialoge, an exchange of opinions, conflicting or concurring notwithstanding, but at the end of it, both parties understand where the other is coming from.
'can i ask these questions and have an honest, intelligent conversation with this woman when we disagree?' because if you can't, none of her answers really matter.
brilliant stuff, something that i totally agree with.