romantics claim that there is someone out there, for everyone of us, and this person will complete us, the way jigsaw pieces fit together, and bring meaning and happiness to our lives.
so then are those who are single incomplete? or in any way un-whole? so then are those who are single unable to experience true happiness and meaning?
i believe that there is someone out there, that perfect someone for each one of us, but i believe that this person will complement us, like strawberry and melted chocolate, and share our happiness and meaning.
the thing about strawberries and melted chocolate is that it is perfectly wonderful to eat either on its own, each has its own unique flavor and idiosyncrasies. however, when savoured together, the sweetness of the chocolate supplements the sourness of the strawberry, and the result is delectable.
love, joy, contentedness, all these, i am sure, are independent of one's love life, and the notion that those who are single are in anyway deficient in these emotions that are so often associated with being in a romantic relationship is absurd.
although i am not convinced that those who are attached are in anyway more capable of loving, of being joyful, of being contended then their single counterparts (rather, i reckon that it is a different set of emotions all together, much like the different satisfaction one derives from watching the dark knight and forgetting sarah marshall), i'm a staunch believer of the institution called marriage.
i spent the day first at the church ceremony, and then the wedding dinner of jason's. i can't help but smile and wonder how it'd be like, if i ever get the chance to walk down the aisle with my wife too throughout the entire day, and even now, the joy radiating from jason, the dazed look on his face and tears shed are firmly etched in my mind. and then, i truly felt a mixture of gladness and delight for this dear friend of mine.
but while it was a joyful event, and things appear to be perfect, with the bride and groom looking stunning and composed, sitting together with one of his "brothers", another football friend, i know that it was far from serene behind the scenes, with my friend scurrying all around sorting the problems that cropped up in order for the groom to look his best, hardly able to sit down and enjoy his dinner proper.
likewise, while many relationships may resemble fairy tales, delve deeper, and you will discover that it takes considerable an conscientious effort and endeavour to build, and maintain a relationship. also the pains the will inevitably be in every relationship - they cannot be comprehended by others.
as for my future partner, she'd be someone that complements me - not someone who completes me.